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53 Significant Factors of Traumatic Shame

Last Updated on February 2, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist We all have shame. It‘s part of the human condition. Shame and primal abandonment are reciprocal. Whereas Abandonment is the fear of disconnection, Shame is feeling unworthy of connection. Their relationship is cyclical. They reinforce each other. Some of us are more shackled read the full article

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What Makes Us Unhappy?

Last Updated on March 3, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist Contrast. If you feel a negative contrast between what you experienced in the past and what you are experiencing now, you feel the short-fall as ‘unhappiness,‘ ‘loss of energy,‘ or ‘depression.‘ At first after Paul died, the contrast was nearly unbearable. I had been accustomed read the full article

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When You Have Loved and Lost What to do with All the Love? Part II

Last Updated on February 1, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist Self Love Not Narcissism Caution: You don‘t make yourself love‘s object narcissistically. It‘s more of a spiritual redirection of energy toward that central place within the self we all share a universal place of quiet appreciation for the wonders of existence. Even if your read the full article

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116 Little Known Facts About Depression

Last Updated on December 8, 2020 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist Get the downloadable version: The outer child program explained inTaming Your Outer Childshows you how to propel your life out of depression. Indeed, Outer Child can get stuck in depression, clogging up the works, making it hard to work your way through. The key to read the full article

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When You‘ve Loved and Lost What to do with all the Love?

Last Updated on January 25, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist What happens when you‘ve loved and lost? Someone writing into my website asked a penetrating, thoughtful question: ‘Dear Susan, In your chapter on Transcending, we learn about the `Higher Purpose of Love.‘ ‘Is the Higher Purpose of Love, in general, that which is more than read the full article

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Why You Should Not Be Ashamed of Being Ashamed

Last Updated on December 7, 2020 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist Transcript: It‘s now a few decades later, and I have become stronger and more accomplished than I ever would have imagined. And I‘ve studied abandonment, of which shame is the cornerstone. And I‘ve come to realize that shame is universal. There is a vein of read the full article

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Where Did My Self-Doubt Come From?

Last Updated on January 18, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist Abandonment vs. the Self Some people want to understand why: Why do they doubt themselves? Why is their self-esteem eroded? Why does it hurt so much to be abandoned? To not be accepted? To feel slighted by a friend? How did this vulnerability set in? read the full article

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Stress Hormones Can Lead to Cognitive Changes

Last Updated on January 5, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist Outer Child- your internal nemesis - reacts to stress by falling back on overused, automatic patterns of behavior - kneejerk reactions you have been developing since childhood. They may have helped you cope with various stressors when you were younger, but they bypass the need read the full article

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How to Stay on a Diet and Finally Lose Weight Using the Outer Child Program

Stick to your diet? Have trouble with it? Taming Your Outer Child Slims You Right Down Outer Child is always trying to get immediate gratification, and the most immediately gratifying experience is popping a piece of food in your mouth you taste and feel it instantly.Taming Your Outer Childhas a truly effective program for read the full article

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When the Workplace Becomes a Stage for Your Abandonment Issues: What to Do When You‘re Triggered

Last Updated on February 22, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist When the workplace triggers your issues You begin to feel nobody values your ideas. Or somehow you become a scapegoat. Or your coworkers gravitate toward your rival. Or you‘re overlooked for promotion. Or your staff actively ignores your directives. Or. Any number of triggers can read the full article

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When We Try To Move Relationships Forward, And It Goes Backwards

Last Updated on February 15, 2021 by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist I‘ve gotten a lot of messages lately about relationships going out of whack. One minute you‘re in sync and the next, one is pulling away, and the other is feeling abandoned. It makes me appreciate the fact that the most important commodity in a relationship read the full article

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